Facebook Status Etiquette (and mild language)

I kinda hate it when people spew out phrases like "what goes around comes around" and "karma is a bitch" because it's usually followed by something negative directed at someone who pissed the speaker off. To me, it's a little ironic to tell someone that karma is going to do evil things to another while also saying that the speaker will enjoy to see it, due to the fact that wishing evil on others is bad karma, right?

As far as that goes, saying nothing but quotes referencing the fact that your outlook on life is terrible will not only fail to change anything, but make others feel down as well. Negativity is really contagious, and if you're in a bad mood, you'll just bring out that side in everyone. No wonder life seems down when you make people think about the bad things in life.

I always want to tell these people that life is what you make of it. That's the most true statement I can think of. If someone is trying to hurt you, yes it'll hurt. There's nothing wrong with being hurt. Being hurt doesn't make you weak. But when you let their hate cause you to spread more hate, is it any wonder that things never seem to feel better? And is it any wonder that people will try to set you off, when you're making yourself an easy target? Whether someone is taunting you for pleasure, personal gain or boredom, what they want from you is the same: a reaction. When you have the mask of the internet, you don't have to show how mad or upset you are at someone. It allows you to keep a blank expression no matter what people are doing or saying.

And when your life is in the sewer, and it's all you can talk about, is it any wonder why it seems like no one is there? Every case is very different, but I've personally been struggling with depression problems for quite a few years now. It hurts for a little bit every day. I rarely react out through social medias. My blog is always a place to share, bitch, and wallow in self hate when I really need it, but I can't see the benefit of using social medias to tell everyone how shitty my life is. They have their own problems, and more than anything you just end up looking like your trying to get attention when what you really may need is help.

Ever notice how when you start posting sad worded messages everyone has something to say to cheer you up? But slowly, if you continue to post for days or weeks, less and less people seem to be there? It's not because no one cares. There are just only so many encouraging words you can give someone, and after so long it seems useless because it doesn't seem that the sad-person is even trying to better their situation. Whether or not they are is irrelevant. Social media will only show what you choose to show, and if all you choose to show is the bad part of your life, no one will see the struggling hopeful in you.

What I'm trying to say is: Facebook is a place to share general on-goings, pictures, ideas, and bits of your life. It can be used in any way you choose, no one will stop you (short of uploading porn, of course) but its also a tool people use to make up their mind about you as a person. You can say "well, they should get to know the real me first anyway" but if what you post isn't the real you, then what the fuck is? As with any sort of media, you want to make sure you look at what you're saying through the eyes of a stranger, and never post when you're feeling heightened negative emotions. As a rule, it rarely goes will for those posting.

XoXo,
S

ps, some quotes on positive attitudes.
If you don't get everything you want, think of the things you don't get that you don't want.  ~Oscar Wilde

So often time it happens, we all live our life in chains, and we never even know we have the key. (I actually would like to get this tattooed to me when I get my key done, to end the "key to your heart" jokes)

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.  ~Winston Churchill


There are exactly as many special occasions in life as we choose to celebrate.  ~Robert Brault


Happiness is an attitude.  We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong.  The amount of work is the same.  ~Francesca Reigler


We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.  ~Oscar Wilde,Lady Windermere's Fan, 1893


Just because you're miserable doesn't mean you can't enjoy your life.  ~Annette Goodheart


To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it.  ~Confucius


A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.  ~Hugh Downs